Try to think, “What can I do to help the other person? What kind words can I speak? What good deeds can I perform WITH NO EXPECTATION, only to serve? How can I help my fellows? How can I be of service?” Think like that. There is no question of self-pity. Do you not realize how many people are suffering in the world today? Let us be grateful for the Grace given to us that we are able to serve and we have the knowledge of healing fires.