Desire creates a coloration that distorts reality and prevents us from attaining that higher level of consciousness which results in inner peace and harmony, peace of mind. Once the desire is fulfilled, another desire is born.
One is drawn to others on the spiritual path not to fulfill desires only but to join with another soul in working together towards the light. This kind of soul connection is quite divine. It is not found through fulfillment of desires.
In fact, this preoccupation with desires, e.g. sexual desire, can block what the soul is truly to receive. Then one can meet the wrong person but because of desire, assume the person is the “true love.” Desire only begets desire and misery follows.
Put attention on the Divine, the love of God, and place all desires at His feet. Only then can the judgment of the mind in such matters become clear.